To scale through life fairly easily we need a certain amount of common sense. In other words, if you have less common sense than you should, you would have a damn difficult time existing.
Someone told me this story. The sound of his voice and his reason for telling me were really terrifying. Anyway this is it:
A girl went to visit a boy that she once had sex with. They went out for dinner, then retired to the boy's apartment. They kissed, he fondled her breast, sucked her nipples, and licked her neck. She was enjoying it, he was enjoying it, until he wanted to penetrate and she said she didn't want to have sex. He was erect, fully erect. He decided that it was wicked and unreasonable of her to work him up to that level then leave his junior standing like a soldier. At first he pleaded, but she refused. She didn't want to have sex with him. Then he forced her. He held her neck tight and penetrated her. Her pleas, cries, and squirms weren't getting to him. The only thing he wanted at that moment was to jerk off.
This story was told to me by a friend, a boy of course. He asked me, if the boy was wrong to rape her after she tempted him that way. I wouldn't really say he asked me, rather, he complained that the girl, "way-ward" girl had the temerity to cuss out the boy for forcing her to have sex. "That is not rape naa", he said "what do you expect a full blown man to do with that kind of erection. She shouldn't have started it at all if she knew she won't straff".
I was speechless at first, trying to organise my thoughts, and restrain myself from bursting out in tears at his utter lack of common sense.
This is a serious issue. Boys nowadays do not know the meaning of rape:
According to Wikipedia: Rape is a type of sexual assault usually involving sexual intercourse, which is initiated by one or more persons against another person without that person's consent. The act may be carried out by physical force, coercion, abuse of authority or against a person who is incapable of valid consent, such as one who is unconscious, incapacitated, or below the legal age of consent
According to FBI: The carnal knowledge of a female forcibly and against her will." to "The penetration, no matter how slight, of the vagina or anus with any body part or object, or oral penetration by a sex organ of another person, without the consent of the victim."
Now, that is the definition of rape. Any kind of penetration, whether the girl "caused" it by allowing him to kiss her or touch her.
It's really sad when I see boys act like dogs. It sends chills down my spine because they act with conviction. They actually feel that they are right! How do you justify forcing yourself on a woman. If she trusts you enough to bare it all for you, you should respect her enough to leave her alone when she asks. You might think she is a whore, or a teaser or whatever reason you try to give yourself while you take advantage of her, but remember that you are worse.
And don't tell me that girls too should not sleep over at a boys place if they know they don't want to have anything to do with the boy. I have one question. One simple question: Are these boys lower animals. Can't they control their libido.
It's really silly that we give girls this useless advice. Why can't boys be taught to control themselves. To respect themselves. Why do we keep blaming girls?
A woman whose husband is sleeping with her housemaid, will beat the maid to death while the useless husband who normally is older than the maid will get a tap in the back, because men are "like that", they are "naturally promiscuous".
"The man who raped a girl is innocent, and the girl who the man raped is shameless. After all she tempted the man, she lured him. After all what is she looking for in his house, or hotel room. Why did she give him green light. If she knew she doesn't want why did she collect his money, or food, or blackberry phone". This is the argument that some people make, and this is when common sense comes in. Did she force you to buy things for her? Was it not of your own volition? Didn't you have the right to say Yes or No? Did she tell you she is a prostitute that collects food and money for sex? And the most important question: Don't you have self control?
Anytime we blame a girl for getting raped, we are simply saying that men are animals of the lowest order, with no sense of reasoning, control, morals, conduct, and sympathy.
Five minutes of pleasure can't be compared to the years of torture women go through after being raped. She will keep thinking of you with hate, anger, hate. Is it worth it?
How is it even possible that one can enjoy having sex with someone who is in pain and agony?
I can't even advice girls who have been raped to speak out in this country where we lack forces that should protect us. Of course at the end of the day they will be called shameless for allowing themselves to get raped. Most times your life is even easier if you act like nothing happened. If you leave everything to karma. Because even the people you hold in high regards will blame you, your parents, your friends and even you will blame you.
Like they say; common sense is not common at all. There are some people that don't have it, and it is our responsibility to teach them some things. Rape under any circumstance is a crime. If common sense can't make you see the evil in it then it's really sad.
We should begin to raise our boys right. Teach them to respect all women, if not the big kind of respect, the one they call "respect for human dignity".
Someone told me this story. The sound of his voice and his reason for telling me were really terrifying. Anyway this is it:
A girl went to visit a boy that she once had sex with. They went out for dinner, then retired to the boy's apartment. They kissed, he fondled her breast, sucked her nipples, and licked her neck. She was enjoying it, he was enjoying it, until he wanted to penetrate and she said she didn't want to have sex. He was erect, fully erect. He decided that it was wicked and unreasonable of her to work him up to that level then leave his junior standing like a soldier. At first he pleaded, but she refused. She didn't want to have sex with him. Then he forced her. He held her neck tight and penetrated her. Her pleas, cries, and squirms weren't getting to him. The only thing he wanted at that moment was to jerk off.
This story was told to me by a friend, a boy of course. He asked me, if the boy was wrong to rape her after she tempted him that way. I wouldn't really say he asked me, rather, he complained that the girl, "way-ward" girl had the temerity to cuss out the boy for forcing her to have sex. "That is not rape naa", he said "what do you expect a full blown man to do with that kind of erection. She shouldn't have started it at all if she knew she won't straff".
I was speechless at first, trying to organise my thoughts, and restrain myself from bursting out in tears at his utter lack of common sense.
This is a serious issue. Boys nowadays do not know the meaning of rape:
According to Wikipedia: Rape is a type of sexual assault usually involving sexual intercourse, which is initiated by one or more persons against another person without that person's consent. The act may be carried out by physical force, coercion, abuse of authority or against a person who is incapable of valid consent, such as one who is unconscious, incapacitated, or below the legal age of consent
According to FBI: The carnal knowledge of a female forcibly and against her will." to "The penetration, no matter how slight, of the vagina or anus with any body part or object, or oral penetration by a sex organ of another person, without the consent of the victim."
Now, that is the definition of rape. Any kind of penetration, whether the girl "caused" it by allowing him to kiss her or touch her.
It's really sad when I see boys act like dogs. It sends chills down my spine because they act with conviction. They actually feel that they are right! How do you justify forcing yourself on a woman. If she trusts you enough to bare it all for you, you should respect her enough to leave her alone when she asks. You might think she is a whore, or a teaser or whatever reason you try to give yourself while you take advantage of her, but remember that you are worse.
And don't tell me that girls too should not sleep over at a boys place if they know they don't want to have anything to do with the boy. I have one question. One simple question: Are these boys lower animals. Can't they control their libido.
It's really silly that we give girls this useless advice. Why can't boys be taught to control themselves. To respect themselves. Why do we keep blaming girls?
A woman whose husband is sleeping with her housemaid, will beat the maid to death while the useless husband who normally is older than the maid will get a tap in the back, because men are "like that", they are "naturally promiscuous".
"The man who raped a girl is innocent, and the girl who the man raped is shameless. After all she tempted the man, she lured him. After all what is she looking for in his house, or hotel room. Why did she give him green light. If she knew she doesn't want why did she collect his money, or food, or blackberry phone". This is the argument that some people make, and this is when common sense comes in. Did she force you to buy things for her? Was it not of your own volition? Didn't you have the right to say Yes or No? Did she tell you she is a prostitute that collects food and money for sex? And the most important question: Don't you have self control?
Anytime we blame a girl for getting raped, we are simply saying that men are animals of the lowest order, with no sense of reasoning, control, morals, conduct, and sympathy.
Five minutes of pleasure can't be compared to the years of torture women go through after being raped. She will keep thinking of you with hate, anger, hate. Is it worth it?
How is it even possible that one can enjoy having sex with someone who is in pain and agony?
I can't even advice girls who have been raped to speak out in this country where we lack forces that should protect us. Of course at the end of the day they will be called shameless for allowing themselves to get raped. Most times your life is even easier if you act like nothing happened. If you leave everything to karma. Because even the people you hold in high regards will blame you, your parents, your friends and even you will blame you.
Like they say; common sense is not common at all. There are some people that don't have it, and it is our responsibility to teach them some things. Rape under any circumstance is a crime. If common sense can't make you see the evil in it then it's really sad.
We should begin to raise our boys right. Teach them to respect all women, if not the big kind of respect, the one they call "respect for human dignity".
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